Posted by Susan47 on April 27, 2005, at 12:43:31
In reply to Re: Sunny, posted by sunny10 on April 27, 2005, at 8:50:33
As soon as you feel the confidence why don't you make new friends? I made friends in the building I moved into. But I had to be careful because one of them was a man who wanted more, you know? He still does, he's a terrible flirt with me. His eyes, his smile, the things he says .. very obvious, you know what I mean. So I try to avoid him a bit because he's a bit too scary, too strong of a come-on and I'm not attracted to him. But I can see he would be a very good friend, it just wouldn't be fair because he would always be looking for more. I keep my friends same-sex for the most part. I'm lucky though because somehow I just am able to make connections very easily. I don't know why but it is that way. My thing is I always back off, too afraid of being known and there's no real reason that I can understand. So maybe you do the same thing but it's more severe. It's a hell of a hole, I know. I fall into it all the time. It's a matter of keeping yourself available, open, wherever you go and whatever you're doing because your best friend may turn out to be the girl who serves you at Starbucks, the girl behind the counter at the grocery store who smiles and has a conversation with you about her holiday, you know? People generally WANT to make friends.
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