Posted by Susan47 on April 26, 2005, at 15:23:23
In reply to Re: could have used one last night » Susan47, posted by sunny10 on April 26, 2005, at 12:50:30
I've been alone like that too. Last year when I moved in here was the first time in ten years or so. Actually even then I had my son, I was 26 when he was born, so I did spend nine years completely alone. Well no that's not true because for several months I shared a flat with a girlfriend, at the time. She was, if I may say so please, very loose, sexually. And I kid you not, several nights a week sometimes, there was a different pair of shoes by the door.
I don't know how she survived all that sex with so many diff. guys. Man. It was exhausting just being there, around her. But we did a lot of fun partying.
But I've lived by myself for eight long, looooonnng years, then with my son for another nine. So it's been a struggle, I know what you mean about the suddenly alone, a-l-o-n-e and you have no one but yourself to go to for emotional help and well-being.
I was fortunate, last year, that I had friends to help me through. They moved me, my ex- helped as well, all the children (five) and I had everyone over for supper and then I started having friends over regularly, I didn't care how bad I felt I made those luncheon dates and they call came over one by one, week after week, until I'd entertained everyone, lunches, dinners, you know. And even though it took effort to make calls and keep friends, I did it and now for the first time in my life I feel, I know there're people who care enough about me to help me, and they understand me and can forgive me if they feel I've transgressed.
Whew.
I better go, that was long. Make the effort to reach out and be a friend, and you won't be alone or lonely. Guaranteed. Sometimes I forget that. But not always. I think actually that nowadays, most people forget to reach out. It's too bad. Make the calls and invite them over .. bonus, they usually bring a housewarming gift :)
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