Posted by slavegirl on February 21, 2005, at 17:04:29
In reply to Torment over my cats......Help, posted by PhoenixGirl on February 21, 2005, at 16:27:15
Sorry to hear about your 'babies' since this is how you feel about your cats (so nice to meet another cat lover). I had a cat Sammy once and she was a crazy cat (scared, dippy, hid under bushes and dug into the sand if she could to hide from people and had this terrible habit of never ever wanting to use a litter tray...peed all over and chewed the carpet..got to be terrible when I was pregnant and constantly cleaning cat poop and trying to keep my other toddler away from the mess). Anyway, not that this is your problem....but I also had another cat and they REFUSED to get along. Kim always attacked Sammy and Sammy was terrified of Kim..they wouldn't curl up together, lick one another, play together or even share a litter tray or food bowls. So I can see where you're coming from. Some cats are just not happy to share and some cats are just antisocial. Sad thing was that I'd had Sammy about 13 years and I eventually had no choice but to have her 'put down'. I couldn't cope with her antisocial habits...constant cleaning, destruction, smell, risk to my unborn baby with cleaning up all the mess and the general state of affairs. Spoke to the Vet who said that a cat that was antisocial was something not easy to cope with..and I basically just had no choice. You may think I'm cruel and it still breaks my heart and I'll never forgive myself for handing over that cat basket to have her put down and I loved her so...but as I say...I was at the end of my tether (she wouldn't even go outside to do her 'business')..she wouldn't go outside full stop. Nobody else could have taken her..what to do? I still can't forgive myself. I truly love cats and have moved country, where the outside cats (strays) are so important to me that I generally care for them, name them, feed them and try to have the females neutered where possible to cut down on the population explosion. We adopted a stray and he is the most important member of our family, so I believe you when you stress how you feel...your cats - both of them - are important to you. But antisocial behaviour is something that is very hard to deal with (as the Vet put it to me)...and sometimes you have to do what you have to do (and I feel crappy saying this). Geez...what to do? Whatever it is...don't feel like a bad person, cause you're not.
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