Posted by Fi on October 4, 2004, at 14:52:27
In reply to harder to bond online? my sucky life...(bad day), posted by alesta on October 1, 2004, at 15:53:08
You wont know me- I have been on the boards off and on for ages, but not much lately. I think it is harder to bond online. Its amazing that we manage any amount of bonding, when you think how little we can actually communicate in these short written messages. No visual or voice contact, background etc etc.
I have found it positive and also really hard using the boards. The little touches of understanding are great, but the distance of it all (and lack of certainty if anyone will reply, and when) can make it tantalising and too distant when you are feeling really rough. I tend to rely more on helplines at that point- I need to speak to a real person.
Your life sounds rotten. There may well be small things you can do gradually to make things a little better, but I realise that this may seem a huge challenge when you are really down. Its important to do something. Its good you are doing some surfing- that could help provide something to read or distract yourself. Or ordinary TV? Or small manageable amounts of things around the house?
But I realise that its harder in the US than the UK to manage without a car (or someone else who has one).
So I'm glad you do have the boards, and I also understand how that can just give a tantalising little bit of contact. But its still a bit of a help.
Take care.
Fi
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