Posted by ISeekPeace on June 21, 2004, at 1:50:30
In reply to Kellyr, posted by Jai Narayan on June 19, 2004, at 9:25:36
Kelly
I am suicidal on several days, but I have learned to find deeper meaning in life, and in suffering. Everyone suffers, and since it is always relative to one's own life, it is meaningless to compare suffering. But finding meaning in one's suffering and remembering a purpose, a one thing, to which you can point your life, can change your disposition. Aside from your pain, which I have felt completely, what do you see as something life has expected from you? This may sound a bit strange at first, but we all know what we expect from life. What does life expect from us? To live, to fulfill your presense and existence to those who care about you, (which now includes us), and to do the one thing which you are destined to do. What makes you unique? Embrace yourself. Love may not be the meaning of life (though for some it is), but there is always salvation in love of something, and love of oneself. Acceptance and forgiveness of oneself is the first step toward loving. Do not underestimate humor. If you can find humor in something, anything, no matter how silly or meaningless, you are rising above a situation and temporarily stepping out of it and can view it productively. What do you love? For some it is painting, others music, and for some, simply helping others brings about a wonderful feeling of achievement. There is a reason you are here that is greater than your present situation, and it is in this understanding that you will find purpose.
To paraphrase Dr. Viktor E. Frankyl, once a person has a 'why' to their existence, they can suffer virtually any 'how'. The things you are so bravely tolerating now are making you into an amazing person. Your suffering is not meaningless, and in realizing this, you are finding strength that will never leave your side.
-Peace
If you have strength to read, even just a bit, I whole-heartedly suggest Viktor E. Frankyl's "Man's Search for Meaning" He speaks truths of any person's life and of our obstacles and sufferings as meaningful experiences toward our goal in life.
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