Posted by ramsea on June 18, 2004, at 2:59:06
In reply to Re: why people ignore me » ramsea, posted by Dinah on June 17, 2004, at 9:40:33
Very well said, Dinah, thanks. You sound positive and strong-minded. I suppose one of my difficulties at this point in life is that my sense of goodwill and trust was really amazingly naive and I got burned over and over. I never seemed to learn how to defend myself properly, so now I just try to avoid everyone just to protect what's left of me! lol. I do have a supportive and very devoted spouse, and although I have no friends--sincerely, zero--I am luckier than a lot of people. My husband does understand I have a problem socially. My pdoc admits there are some autistic traits (My father is high functioning autistic--very much so, and so is a brother mildly, and another relative quite probably). But my pdoc lumps it all with bipolar.
I suppose I see women as being the really good bonders and friend-makers and know I fail pretty clearly in this area. I'd love to just have coffee and listen and do fun stuff.
But maybe I am idealizing. Anytime I have been given the chance to do this, my stress levels are off the chart and quite frankly, it is unhealthy. I believe it is my challenge to live with this as best I can. Thanks for writing and keep up with that reaching out to others--it seems to be working for you.
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