Posted by tabitha on April 29, 2004, at 11:30:06
In reply to Re: I just want to cry, posted by Ivan Michael on April 29, 2004, at 10:25:11
all your good wishes. I usually feel better in the morning, and this morning I feel a little better. Healthier thinking tells me that yeah, going out with a bunch of guys, younger guys at that, isn't likely to be a real bonding experience. I was feeling vulnerable to begin with.
I do feel accepted here at babble, except for occasional moments when I'm sure I'm killing threads. Maybe I come across better in writing than in person. That's a little depressing to think.
I had an idea.. the key is mingling. That's the starting point of making friends, right? Here at babble there's mingling-- that's the whole point, everyone wants to talk to each other and get to know each other, right? Where are the face to face situations like that? I don't hole up in my room all the time. I go out a lot-- to the bookstore, the coffeeshop, the stores, but at all those places nobody is really mingling much. Everyone is just keeping to themselves taking care of business. Where is all the mingling? Even at supposedly fun events, like this street fair thing I went to, there wasn't much mingling. My therapist tells me it's OK to talk to people anywhere, but dagnabbit, I feel weird doing that in a place where pretty much everyone is keeping to themselves. I need to either get more activities that have mingling, or start being in mingling mindset more, or something. Maybe I'm missing opportunities.
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