Posted by Elle2021 on January 6, 2004, at 6:22:48
In reply to Arrrghh! Ex Emailed me...., posted by kara lynne on January 5, 2004, at 1:29:10
> I changed the subject line to 'Do not ever write me again.' and sent it back to him.
Good for you, he's unhealthy.
> WHY IS HE DOING THIS?
He wants *you* to know how well he is doing without you. It's typical break-up behaviour. (i.e. just because we aren't together, doesn't mean my life is falling apart--hint: they are hardly ever as happy as they try to pretend to be).
>Last I knew him he was a fifty pound overweight diabetic who could barely get on a treadmill.
And it's likely that he still is. Could he really change that fast?
>and ready to enlighten the pathetic people littering his path.
How generous of him...*sarcastic tone coming from me*
>Why is it so important to him that I know that he is doing now what he would not do with me?
Because he thinks you are doing well without him and wants you to think he is doing well without you...
> I don't know if I responded how I should have.
I think you did fine.
>So now he'll say, "I won't let him write me", it will all be my fault.
You know it isn't all your fault and so does he.
> Is this intentional?
Probably
>When it's disguised in this condescending, nauseating...
It means he's a narcissist.
>"What might help", and I was thinking I'd find some suggestion about our relationship inside.
I think he meant, "What might make it easier for me to manipulate you, please follow the directions..."
Elle
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