Posted by Dinah on October 19, 2003, at 13:06:15
In reply to Re: Boasting about Drug abuse MamaB » Dinah, posted by NikkiT2 on October 19, 2003, at 11:35:11
Nawww, Nikki. I'm with you. Feelings are what they are. I'm not sure they're ever a "choice". We might be able to choose what to concentrate on, and I often say that I choose to see something as being an amusing quirk, for example.
Feelings are frequently triggered by someone else's actions. Sometimes quite rightly so, and they serve as valuable information to us about other people or situations. Sometimes the feelings have more to do with our prior associations, etc. than the actual actions of a person or a situation. I think it's good to know the difference.
I think half of my problems come from my attempts to choose what I feel instead of choosing what to do with my feelings.
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