Posted by Eddie Sylvano on September 3, 2003, at 9:35:20
In reply to Re: Discontent, Confusion, Loneliness, Longing » Eddie Sylvano, posted by Tabitha on September 2, 2003, at 15:43:31
> I know others can't take me from unhappy to happy. Then again, we need some social contact, right? I don't understand the boundary. How much are others supposed to provide?
-------------It's not clear cut. A few rules that make sense to me:
Relationships should be reciprocal. If one person is doing most of the social or emotional work in maintaining it, something's wrong.
You should not need the approval of others to be happy (but you can certainly appreciate it).
You should have at least an hour or two by yourself each day.
You should be able to be yourself at all times (which also entails knowing yourself).The number of hours you spend with others isn't really important. It's more the nature of the time you spend with them, and the ability to be by yourself without always feeling lonely.
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