Posted by fallsfall on August 25, 2003, at 22:33:02
In reply to Home Again (long), posted by Temmie on August 25, 2003, at 20:48:30
Welcome home! I've missed you.
My daughter leaves for her Junior year in college tomorrow. My son leaves for Basic Training in the Army. He signed on for 6 years. That's a third of his life! They both live with their dad (just down the street), but I am used to having contact with them (my son won't even have a computer for more than 9 weeks!).
My 15 year old and I had a major fight last night and she went to sleep at her dad's. With that house emptied out she may spend more time there - she has been with me all the time. I'm terrified that I won't be able to handle her being gone (the last time she spent time there I went into the hospital).
So yes, the empty house is pretty scary! I know I have to put more activities in my week. The kids were filling the weeks up, but that won't be true really soon. We'll see how it goes.
One thing my daughter at college does is she always leaves an AOL IM Away message up. That way I know when she has a test, or is playing frisbee, or is going to a movie. It means I can connect with her whenever I need to and know what she is doing - without interrupting or bothering her.
Paul. This is so hard for you. But you do know what you need to do. And just because you talked with him once, that doesn't mean everything is out the window. It's like a diet. You do the best you can, and when you have trouble you just try to get back on track. You know that there is more to Paul than you saw (i.e. the abuse). But he filled a need for you - an important need - and that is why you still miss him. There ARE other ways to fill that need. If you can figure out what the need is, then you have a better chance of figuring out how to fill it.
Another poster, Kara Lynne, was having a hard time not calling her ex. We would advise her: Don't Call Him. Sounds like good advice for you?
How old are your students? What subject/s do you teach?
I love the Fall. I'm in New England, so the air gets crisp (sweater weather), and the leaves get pretty and cover the ground.
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