Posted by Greg on July 9, 2003, at 18:29:29
In reply to Yes Greg?, posted by whiterabbit on July 8, 2003, at 19:27:21
Aw Gracie, you're only a know-it-all if you have an opinion and you believe that no one else does. I haven't seen that from you. What I have seen is you, like Shar and some of the others here, have a enviable mastery of the written word. You can tell a story, be it yours, or any story, and captivate me. It's almost like sitting in front of a fire and be read that bedtime story, very cool.
Your lawyer is a pretty smart guy. It doesn’t really matter what the STBX may promise you verbally, it’s what you end up with in writing. The final decree should contain any agreements about continuing medical insurance, division of assets, all that good stuff. A little story here…When my first pain, er, wife (sorry ladies, but she was a pain) and I split, she asked if I could give her extra child support as she was up against it financially. I was making very good money as a long haul truck driver at the time and agreed to help her out for awhile. Come to find out, she was using the money to buy drugs that she was selling, but that’s another story. Not only was she getting extra money from me, but was telling the state that I wasn’t paying my regular child support either, and was collecting welfare. Despite the differences we had that split us up, I always thought she was an honest person. I never asked for a receipt for my payments. Bad move. About 5 years later I received a bill from Family Development for $7,700. She was collecting welfare while collecting my child support too, and telling them I wasn't paying her. Without receipts, I had no choice but to pay. The moral of this story? GET EVERYTHING IN WRITING!
I really hope you can work out someway to keep his benefits until you’re back on your feet with a full-time job and all. Out-of-pocket medical expenses are totally outrageous! I was reading recently that the average cost to a non-insured person to an Emergency Room is over $4000 now, and that’s with no bells or whistles. The cheapest insurance you can buy privately here in California is Kaiser Permanente, and I believe it’s about $660 a month. And that’s for the bare minimum coverage. And my experience with Kaiser is that you can die in the waiting room waiting to be seen. My son almost did when he was a baby, he had 106.5 degree temp and they made us wait 45 minutes to get in.
You’re a good lady Gracie. I know I don’t know you in person, hell I’ve only met one person here. Shar will make two in October, YAY!!! But I judge a person by what their willing to give of themselves. And, I realize that even the most giving of people sometimes run out of gas, don’t have anything to say, or find a subject triggering and can’t get involved. But all thru this mess that you’re in right now you haven’t hesitated to give love and support to others, and I think that makes you a very special and worthwhile person in my eyes. As far as Ken goes, I’ll goodngoddamnguaranteeya (I’m sure that’s a word in some dictionary somewhere) what comes around, goes around. If you’re lucky, maybe you’ll even get to see it. But that’s sour grapes.
Yes dear, I am a California grown and bred youngster (Youngster, yeah right). I’ve lived in the San Francisco Bay Area all my life except for a three year excursion to Salt Lake City, UT. Don’t ask me why. Well, my wife was born and raised there and I let her talk me into it actually. It really was a wonder place…But. It has seasons, and I couldn’t get used to that. It has snow, which I liked for the first few weeks until I got a job delivering propane in it. Propane and snow don’t make a good mix. My route was up in the ski resorts. You’d attach the propane nozzle to the tank, fill it up, and then the nozzle would freeze to the tank. My routes usually ran about 14 hours a day and I would come home with my socks (2 pair) and my pant legs frozen solid. So needless to say I grew tired of Utah quickly and we moved back. I love the weather (especially when it’s hot, tank tops and shorts, YEAH BABY!!!), the people, we’re all crazy. Every kind of food imaginable. A million things to do at any hour of the day or night. No more that 5 hours away from major gambling casinos (had to throw that in). Some of the greatest beaches in the whole world. An hour’s drive will get you to some fantastic trout fishing. Probably ‘nuff said huh?
Anyway Gracie, I do appreciate your presence here and look forward to reading your posts. However your trial and tribulations turn out, I hope they are to your benefit, and your happiness.
Hang tough,
Greg
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