Posted by Penny on July 1, 2003, at 21:58:00
In reply to Re: Why?? » Penny, posted by noa on July 1, 2003, at 21:40:22
Oh yes - the desire to deny what happened runs strong through the family. I am the 2nd oldest of four grandchildren, and my older cousin has two children (the younger of which was the one abused). My older cousin and I were very close while growing up, but we don't even talk anymore after she couldn't understand my questioning anything that happened. I have yet to get straight answers from anyone, and I wouldn't have even known what was in the suicide note if my great aunt, who was one of the only people to read the note, hadn't told me. My grandmother has said many times that she wishes she had just destroyed that note before anyone else saw it. I can understand why it's so hard for her to ignore the truth, as it's a really really ugly truth, but her denial has spilled over onto the other family members. My cousin's father is my mom's older brother, and I don't even know what he thinks of this whole thing. He's the only one in the family who ever sees her or her kids, and that's not very frequently. My grandmother has remarked that she wonders how he feels knowing that most of my family sees her as a troublemaker, black sheep of the family, and liar.
Yep - nothin' but denial.
And it makes it just that much harder to tackle the depression issue.
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