Posted by kara lynne on July 1, 2003, at 17:40:51
In reply to Kara how are you fending?, posted by giget on July 1, 2003, at 10:48:18
Hi giget,
How nice to scroll down and see your post. Thank you for asking; I have not found another apt. yet, but I'm going to really step up the search. It's so exhausting.The ex and I are ensconced in email wars--I don't seem to have the discipline not to engage. You would be amazed at how many different ways there are to say, "It's your fault."
He starts to apologize but always ends up by telling me how I caused (fill in the blank). I am trying to tell him I want to be more than an ultimatum to somebody and he tells me how he was really just about to love me, but I was just too darn demanding. That pesky idea of marriage after five years, you know? Some nerve I have. Apparently he wanted to marry me, but for some reason I never knew about it.His latest suggestion was that we see a "fairly intense psychiatrist" with a more "rigorous" approach than the lightweight counseling we had (and that was like pulling teeth). I must admit it was tempting at first; the promise of it working out, or the idea that he may really want it to. But I thought it through and didn't foresee anything positive coming from it. This is where we are after five years, do you think a fairly intense psychiatrist with a rigorous approach could fix us?
Thanks for letting me get this out. Thanks for checking. How are you doing? I am going to go read your posts below and find out!
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