Posted by bluedog on December 26, 2002, at 21:07:29
In reply to So, um, I've been thinking of this girl..., posted by utopizen on December 25, 2002, at 23:31:29
I know what you are going through utopizen.
For a year I have had an enormous crush on this girl in my yoga class yet in the entire year I might have only said a few words to her and when I do talk to her I immediately become a complete idiot (has anyone seen that movie "The Gods must be Crazy" where the main male character becomes a complete clutz around females... well that's me down to a tee)
I am one of only three males in my yoga class and the other two men are married and come to class with their wives. I have no problem talking and joking with all the other women in my class and I know all about their lives and daily work etc etc. Yet I don't know the first thing about this one girl...for instance I don't even know if she already has a partner.
I consider all the women in my class as beautiful in there own special ways...HOWEVER with this one girl because I have this crush on her my social anxiety kicks in and I become a complete idiot around her. I am even too frightened to make eye contact with her in case she realizes that I'm attracted to her and that she will then become uncomfortable around me.
By the way I'm not the type of guy that is on the lookout for the "Elle Macpherson" supermodel type and I can become attracted to a girl for many reasons. It may be her eyes or the way she moves etc etc. What I'm trying to say is that I'm not superficial when it comes to what I find attractive in a girl.
It's just that when I DO become attracted to a girl my social anxiety is so powerful that I become completely incapacitated and will then usually sink into a deep depression because of my inability to do anything.
I then withdraw into the fantasy world that Tabitha described in her post.
I know my post maybe doesn't provide you with much help but at least you can see that you are not alone with this problem.
warm regards
bluedog
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