Posted by Ted on September 3, 2002, at 18:14:35
In reply to Re: Shhh!, posted by ~~tabitha~~ on September 3, 2002, at 0:22:08
Hi Tabby,
> Ouch! Tabitha suddenly feels a lot less flirty :(
OK, then we will have to keep this on a purely emotional and flirtatious level. I'm not trying to scare you away!
> > >But... concurrent affairs with a member of each gender, now that would be very nice.
> >
> > Ooohh! That sounds F-U-N! Can I watch? :-)> I think then it would be considered a threesome, wouldn't it?
Only if I participate. Watching isn't participation.
> If a woman is not assertive, and dates men who don't particularly cherish her, I guarantee there will be plenty of very non-pleasureable sex in her life.
Why would she date men who do not cherish her? Low self esteem? Desperation?
>When I think pure physical pleasure, I think battery-operated devices.
OK, well Dinah thinks that way too. But when my wife has a choice between me and her battery operated devices, why does she _always_ choose me? She has said often that the battery operated devices are "only OK in a pinch and not all that great." I think they are a valuable accessory but not a necessary tool.
> Hmm, I'm gonna have to be a little skeptical of this. If your wife really did have an affair, all of her own, not something for your entertainment, you'd really be OK with it?
OK, I'm weird. If she has a one- or two-visit affair, that's fine. When she would rather be with him (or her) than me, then there's a problem.
> Well, trust me, it's easier to find "just sex" than a real partner.
I suppose. $150 at a massage parlor or $20 on the street. YUCK!!
>Ever listen to Liz Phair? There's a good song about this topic.
No -- I don't know Liz Phair. I live a sheltered life in classical music.
> Why do you think this is weird? Lots of guys like smart women.
More guys like models with giant breasts and little enough brain not to question why they hang around with such men. Trust me.
>Lots of people have strange taste in looks too.
Ain't that the truth!! :-)
Hanging out in the airport or the mall is a *riot*.>The young lovelies get the most quantity of attention though.
True, and for good reason. And it's both men AND women. But there are still plenty approaching middle age who are absolute knock-outs.
> OK Ted, I think you've just made my point. If the sign of a quickie is the man making little effort to satisfy the woman, then why on earth would lots of women want this???
Because *so many* men want uncomplicated sex and too many women are willing to provide it. I'm sorry... I was raised differently. I only visited a bar once in my life. My lifetime consumption of beer is under 2 liters. Women shouldn't say "yes" on the first, second, or even third date. Friends first, lovers second, sex partners third.
> Don't give me ideas about little daytime secrets. See previous posts about inappropriate lust for young coworker. Maybe I should start wearing big granny panties, a la Bridget Jones.
No, you should wear sheer, lacy bikinis or thongs and you *should* fantasize about your coworker. Fantasy is great, healthy, and fun. The only problem is when you let your fantasy control your actions.
> >But you needn't advertise like a hooker.
> You mean I shouldn't ask guys if they want to see my thong? Dang, no wonder I don't have a boyfriend.
No, you shouldn't show them your thong before either of you says a word to the other. :-) If you show him your thong first, then I guarantee he won't be interested in being your boyfriend.
> Nice for her. But, um, Ted, how does she feel about all this extra-marital flirting?
I keep my willy in my pants and my hands to myself. We have never met nor even seen a photo of the other. She has little to complain about. She's a woman, though, so she'll probably still be pissed.
> Phil! OMG! I forgot about Phil! Now I've probably ruined my chances with him :(
Either that or your chances have dramatically improved! :-) Just show him your thong and see what happens. :-)
> Yes I have. Once a guy asked me out a couple times, sort of a "let's go out sometime" thing, and I said yes. Then he never followed up. I was totally smitten, so I decided what the heck, I'd push it. I said, "do you still want to have lunch? Well how about this Friday?" We had lunch and he never asked me out again.
My guess is he wasn't interested and he wouldn't have asked you out again anyway unless he was relatively sure you were going to show him your thong.
> Um, I just meant like actually relax and make eye contact instead of my usual shy scurrying about. Baby steps, Ted, baby steps. :)
Ok, ok. Just be careful and most of all, HAVE FUN! Flirting is fun, especially in public with strangers. Just be careful with them.
Ted
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