Posted by IsoM on August 29, 2002, at 19:05:25
In reply to it's okay - allowed - to feel lonely, posted by Medusa on August 28, 2002, at 4:37:26
Medusa, I never read your post before, but reading it, it made me think of conversations I've had with others, both young & old.
Do you know most people are lonely? Maybe to different degrees, but most feel very alone & unable to truly share their deep feelings with others. Many older people have just accepted it & go about their lives with no thought of it anymore. It's hurts too much to think of. The deeper the thinker, the more acute this loneliness they feel. Shallow people can connect easily as there isn't much there to connect. All common interests are just that - common. Their friends have similar brainless interests & needs.
But if you're a deep thinker, there's much you hold inside that few others look at in the same way. This illustration that I'm going to use may sound cheesey, but it's the best way for me to explain it.
It's like we're all gems, with different facets. Some have intricate cuts with many facets; others are like cubes - only 6 sides to them (they're the shallow thinkers & feelers). There's no one in the world who connects to many of my facets. But, I do have friends & family who share some of the facets with me. So with whoever I'm talking to or visiting at that time, I connect with those facets. We find something in common & enjoy ourselves together.
Perhaps we're all gems like that, connecting with different gems till we make a masterpiece. Think of yourself as one unique gem, some of your facets can connect with another lonely gem's facets. It's how I bear feeling lonely & find a way to make it positive.
Rather than the stupid advice about friends your parents gave you, think of yourself as being needed by your friends rather than you just needing friends. We all need one another. We're all connected together. And that's the way it should be. Not absolutely dependent on others, but needing them nonetheless due to our human social nature.
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