Posted by Kath on August 29, 2002, at 17:03:38
In reply to It's hard to make friends, posted by gloryb on August 29, 2002, at 6:52:05
A thought about the new neighbours. Whenever there was a new neighbour in our neighbourhood, my Mom would bake some cookies, or make a cake or make a casserole & take it over. When it was time to return the dish or bowl, etc. the neighbour would end up doing a return visit.
I think a secret about making friends, or having a conversation with people one doesn't know, is to 'make it about THEM'.
In other words, instead of thinking that they wouldn't want to bother with YOU, concentrate on how nice THEY seem, or how interesting or whatever & that YOU'd like to get to know THEM better. In the case of the new neighbours, think of THEM - I suspect they'd be delighted to have their new neighbour knock at the door with a cake-plate in hand, saying something like, "Moving is so hectic, I thought I'd like to welcome you as my new neighbour by bringing you over a dessert. My name is......." etc.
If you decide to do it, let us know! If anyone would react negatively to something like that, then they aren't the type of person you'd want as a "friend" anyway.
hugs, Kath
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