Posted by IsoM on June 3, 2002, at 18:41:53
In reply to Well Meaning Friends, posted by Roo on June 3, 2002, at 16:17:41
Roo, I agree with everything the pthers posted but I'm taking a slightly different view too. Please, don't think this is absolutely right because I don't want to make you feel any worse.
But what your friend suggested does have a bit of merit. No, it's certainly not enough to make things better, or even to give you a rosy glow. But I know for myself, if I can sometimes get my mind off how horrible I feel, it'll help me from 'sinking lower'.
The more my poor mind dwells on my misery (which is only natural & SO easy) the worse I end up feeling. If someone has the strength of good spirits to gently (no bubbly garbage!) keep steering me on a positive track, I tend to feel better - maybe not immediately, but I'll notice in a day or two, things aren't so bleak.
I've got some wonderful friends who sometimes have the same problems I have - some worse, some better. And we all serve to work to make things more positive for each other, while dishing out gobs of empathy & sympathy. We also aren't afraid to tell each other on the days when we're lower than a snake's belly, that nothing will help for now.
Sometime when you can manage, talk with your friend & ask her how low she gets - how bleak will it be at times for her. If she's experienced bad times, maybe you can help each other in a similar way. For me to simply write down 5 things wouldn't work. But if someone was to quietly talk to me about good things I've enjoyed before, it does help.
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