Posted by ELA on March 16, 2002, at 13:04:43
In reply to I've lost a few friends, posted by Rach on March 14, 2002, at 1:34:09
Hi Rachel,
I've lost some friends recently, too, through my drinking and depression. I was really ill last November with blood clots in my lungs. At the beginning of January I tried to kill myself and blamed 2 of my best friends for everything that had happened to me. Now that I look back on it, my drinking had been pushing people away for years.
I've been through a treatment programme recently and have learnt a lot about friends and what expectations we should have of each other. You see, expectations is what a lot of it boils down to. I constantly had unrealistic expectations of everyone and was always disappointed. Now, I'm trying hard not to expect anything and just take each day as it comes.
I don't know what situation you're in but why don't you write to your friends first? Any that ignore your letter or don't get in touch are probably not worth having around anyway. Easier said than done but it's the bitter pill I've had to swallow, too.
I'm sure you'll be ok. We can all give the usual "solutions" - go and make new friends, phone them etc etc - but it isn't always what you feel like doing. I know how you're feeling but just hang in there. Things work out eventually, particularly if God is in your life. Take care.
Emma.
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