Posted by Dinah on February 15, 2002, at 15:35:56
In reply to Re: grraaaaarrrh » Dinah, posted by m3 on February 15, 2002, at 15:18:58
Please print out this thread and bring it to your next session. This sort of thing is difficult, but it's the stuff therapy is made of. That way you can see if her intentions are what you are guessing them to be. A lot of times I read things into my therapist's actions and responses that he never intended. And I can't speak for your therapist, but mine sometimes has nothing whatsoever in mind and barely remembers what seemed significant to me. It's important to just ask. Of course, I never manage to do it during the session in question, but I might call later if I'm really upset or I might bring it up the next session.
And you might try asking a few questions about how she thinks therapy is going to help you and what plan she has for you. And look for concrete answers. And I hope, of course, that you are on a good medication regimen.
I'm sorry if my previous post seemed insensitive to you or missed the point of your question. I do know how frustrating the therapeutic relationship can be. But I find it remarkably less frustrating when the mystery is taken out of it and I'm not guessing what he's thinking or trying to do.
Best wishes,
Dinah> Thank you for giving me your perspective. I guess I feel like I had been going along with the search for why I might be angry with her. I even managed to dig up some frustration directly with her.
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> But I experience it mostly as a frustration with the situation of being depressed. She seems to feel it would be healthier for me to have an object to vent my frustrations upon (she has said as much, more than once). She is also apparently volunteering to be the object (that's me second-guessing). Fine, whatever, she's trying to make me practice being angry or observe myself being angry or something. The problem is, I feel degraded by this little game, and I'm going to have a hard time trusting her with further emotional revelations if I feel she doesn't have respect for them, which is the message I get from being manipulated.
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> Gaaah! I'm crying. And meanwhile I'm supposed to believe this will make me feel better in the end...what evil god invented this profession?
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> thanks for patience with ranting
> M3
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