Posted by Noa on November 21, 2000, at 19:32:09
In reply to Need Some Advice, posted by Adam on November 21, 2000, at 19:13:44
If this man's hospitalization is a "ploy" (I tend to doubt it, because it sounds like he has had a long history of serious problems), it is a short-sighted ploy, I think. I would think that whatever concerns the company had about him wouldn't exactly be reversed by his loss of stability, but then there is the question--just how weak is the boss?
If they are sympathetic to his plight, perhaps they might consider offering to pay his COBRA coverage for a while, so he can get the treatment he needs, or hook him up with disability. But if they had concerns about his ability to function as a team member, that is a legitimate reason to let him go--as long as they warned him and documented it.
Basic advice to your girlfreind:
1. Document everything.
2. Think about the decision logically.
3. Consider sympathetic gestures separately from business decisions.
4. State her opinion clearly to the boss. Use her influence to try to persuade, but:
5. Let the boss make the decision.
and finally--
6. If the guy comes back and the same old same old starts up again, consider finding a work environment that is healthier.Oh, and btw--who knows about a diagnosis of BPD or something else, but you may be interested in some of the "cutting" threads from the past month or two. Cutting isn't always a sign of BPD, or attention getting gestures. It can be but isn't always.
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