Posted by paxvox59 on December 27, 2008, at 20:07:10
In reply to Re: Husband's SHAMEFUL Interests - Please Help! » Emmie, posted by raisinb on December 14, 2008, at 14:14:14
A touchy issue, to be sure. There is no RIGHT answer or response to this. This could be a perverse curiosity or a deviant behavior---but who can know for sure? There is a boundry, like some have said, between children and adults when it comes to sexuality. This boundry has, curiously, changed over time. I mean, my grandmother was MARRIED at 15 to a 22-year-old man, and had her first kid at 16. Conversely, if some man touched my 13-year-old daugher, I'd kill him. What to do, what to do.... I know that I personally went through a "porno" curiosity when my (now ex-)wife decided to deny me any physical or sexual contact with her. I would MUCH preferred to have been "looking" at my wife---but that denied "caused" me to look elsewhere. Was it right? Who can say....but she was pissed as hell when she found out about it, and I don't think she ever forgave me for it. To her, it WAS cheating even if it was "just cyber". I guess that once the mind starts wandering that the body is sure (and soon) to follow! I would suggest that you ask your husband to go to counseling with you with a sex-therapist to work these issues out by an "objective" third party. That way, it is not you versus him and it can be a family solution to this problem.
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