Posted by alexandra_k on November 26, 2021, at 17:37:13
In reply to Projective Identification, posted by Lamdage22 on November 25, 2021, at 15:03:58
> So this is when I don't like a third person but I don't feel the dislike myself, but make the one I am talking to feel that dislike? Because I myself don't accept and cant tolerate that dislike?
> I heard this process can somehow be used for therapy if the therapist is concious of it. How?
If the therapist finds themself disliking the patient it might be that the patient dislikes the therapist.
The patient might be trying (in the only way they can or know how) to get the therapist to refer them on to somebody else. The decision to refer the patient on or let the patient go might need to be made by the therapist. The patient might need the therapists permission or whatever.
Knowing that, the therapist would then be empowered to...
1) Not feel that it is their unresolved issues as to why they feel dislike for the patient. Appreciate the feeling as information that they got from a communication from the patient.
2) Either refer the patient on -- or else try and create a safe environment for the patient to talk about their feelings - if the patient won't admit to disliking the therapist or therapy.
I think.
What do you think?
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