Posted by pegasus on December 15, 2011, at 13:48:20
In reply to Maybe TMI from T?, posted by pegasus on December 14, 2011, at 12:11:20
I just realized that part of the problem is that the conversation I need to have with him now is about my reaction to what he told me. But that breaks the normal rules of social discourse. To talk about my reaction, I have to make this conversation about me. When normally the attention should be focused on him. It seems so unaccepatably self-centered to talk about *my* reaction. But if I don't, then that goes against what I'm supposed to be there for.
This is related to the role reversal that Daisy mentioned, although I think it's also more than that. I'm in a position of needing to break a more general social rule, in order to make this good therapy and not just a disclosure error. I'm going to need a lot of his help with this one.
Also, I find that I want to ask all kinds of inappropriate questions. I want to know if the things that seem to me like they would be the hardest to deal with are actually what he found to be hardest to deal with. But that's definitely not OK, so I'll just have to wonder.
- p
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