Posted by sleepygirl2 on May 1, 2011, at 10:32:12
In reply to How do you speak your own voice?, posted by annabelle smith on April 30, 2011, at 18:32:02
I get the sense that you read a lot about borderline personality disorder.
I'm not sure that such a theoretical approach can really get a handle on your difficulties. A real life interaction between yourself and your therapist, and a discussion about obstacles in your relationships however might yield something different. You are not some definition within a book. I would hope you would not do yourself such a disservice.
None of us are. We might be people who struggle with finding satisfaction, security, and connection in this world. Many of us have experienced significant trauma in our relationships, and a lack of safety. Repair comes in part from the experience of a different quality in relationships, a commitment to taking care of yourself concretely, in your actions.
I am saying this because finding understanding and validation in a book can only go so far, and therapy can only go so far.
There is not so much a magic revelation as there is a pushing through old ways of thinking and relating that do not help you now as they might have saved you before.
And as far as medications go.... Not the total answer either. What they can do is help manage the intensity of emotional experience. You can't spend your time at the end of a plank. It's too far away from the people that you might find comfort from.
You are someone, as far as I can tell from the content of your posts, who has excelled academically. That is a strength. You have them.
Well, that's my 2 cents.
Take excellent care of yourself, accept nothing less. And talk, talk, talk to the people in your life.
Be well
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