Posted by antigua3 on May 29, 2009, at 7:30:14
In reply to contacting out of sessions. How does that go? » emmanuel98, posted by blahblahblah on May 28, 2009, at 20:19:22
This was just brought up in my recent sessions with both my T and pdoc.
This issue seems to change for me over time with both my pdoc and T. My T has always been wonderful about encouraging me to call, and I learned to call when I needed to. But now I can't seem to call unless I'm really bad, and we are trying to figure out why I can't call her. It's a maternal issue, I know, that I didn't go to my mother for help when I needed it because she was always so busy, so I ended up just not needing her, so that's what I've transferred onto my T now. I figure she's so busy, I don't call, but recently when I had a bad spell, I was horrified to discover that I didn't even think of calling her. It just didn't occur to me.
I rarely called my pdoc in the beginning. He never mentioned I could call, and when I did, he rarely, if ever, returned my call. My messages were pretty vicious at the time, but it still hurt that he wouldn't call back.
Now my pdoc always returns my calls, but I've probably only called him a few times since I've started to trust him. He is brusque, too, and always seems too busy to talk, but once we get into the call he gives me the time I need.
I asked him last week when it was OK to call. He told me "how," as in which number to use, etc., but I pressed him on "when." He finally got it, and said to call before I was on the edge, not to wait until I got to that point. That works for me, but still, I find it almost impossible to call and ask for help from either one of them. My trust issues, I'm sure, with my pdoc, and with my T, we're going to work on it.
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