Posted by Dinah on May 28, 2009, at 9:19:06
In reply to I think I'm pretty self absorbed...., posted by obsidian on May 27, 2009, at 22:27:11
I'm not sure where your friend concluded that you didn't want to get better from that.
I think everyone is relatively self absorbed. Even those who are also other-focused. And if you have a temperament where the world's intrusion can be painful and confusing, it's natural to not be all that other-focused in some situations.
If I'm understanding you, you are conscientious about trying to see things from other people's point of view. That doesn't sound like someone too self absorbed to me.
Some people understand, and others don't. Your therapist probably does, and likely isn't sick of you at all. I don't think he hates you, but I don't think you orchestrate the thought either. Maybe this friend just isn't someone who is capable of understanding, and you should limit your discussions with her to match her strengths and weaknesses. There's nothing wrong with that either. She has a different nature, a different way of viewing the world. That can be a great thing in a friend, as long as you take it into account when deciding what to confide.
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