Posted by seldomseen on May 18, 2009, at 12:02:39
In reply to Re: Has your T ever hurt you like this?))Seldomse, posted by BirdSong on May 16, 2009, at 17:26:05
Perhaps you are right. Although I have found that the view from the outside looking in (therapist) and the inside looking out (us) is evidentally quite different.
Do you think that your T has any idea the effect those statements had on you?
I've walked out of therapist's office before. One time it was because I was utterly convinced that the therapist was a total quack. Looking back on the other times though, I can clearly see it was a defensive power play on my part and did nothing to advance my therapy.
There is so much to sort out on the way to recovery and one of the biggest challenges I still face is dealing with a strong trigger from the past.
It's so hard to look directly at something and try to see it for what it really is *at that moment* independent of what my past brings to it. Usually all I really want to do is just run, attack or zone out.
I typically find that more information reveals a more enlightened perspective.
I say talk to your therapist, explain to him very clearly how those words affected you. See how he responds and then make a decision.
You have active and not *reactive* agency in this situation
What everyone is saying is true, there are a lot of outstanding therapists out there and yours may not be one of them. But you never know what may transpire unless you communicate with them.
Seldom.
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