Posted by B2chica on May 15, 2009, at 12:25:57
In reply to Re: Releasing the pain, posted by blahblahblah on May 15, 2009, at 7:35:14
first....LOVE the name , makes me smile.
next...i was very similar to you at the begining of therapy.
i think for me i was scared TO DEATH of my anger inside...once i admitted i had it.
i was scared that if/when i let it out that it would physically and emotionally hurt whomever was near me, that it would forever be like that, or that it would Literally make me insane and 'they' would lock me up in ward for the rest of my days.once i was able to talk about my fears of letting out my emotions, we also talked about when and where i would 'let them out'.
having a 'sort of' plan helped me.
even though i had anger come out at the wrong times anyway, i was able to get through it with frequent T appts.and with this T its really interesting how my body just knows its ok to express the minute i get in her office. that that room is a safe room for anything (but violence of course) i can yell in her office i can make fists, even punch pillows and she's ok with it.
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so its just a matter of having that 'trust' factor with your T. figuring out a saftey plan and letting things happen as they will.
your body will probably be pretty good at letting out bits at a time. sometimes it seems to come all at once, but it does get better.and now, i feel SO much more in control of my feelings, even though BEFORE, when i wasn't expressing them...that is when i THOUGHT i had 'control' of them...it was an illusion.
and thirdly...
two things that REALLY helped me..ok, three. were 1)journaling EVERYTHING, detailing anger etc. 2)exercise...lots of treadmill and 3)painting helped me.
but especially the first two.this might help you when you start.
Best wishes
poster:B2chica
thread:895722
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