Posted by ClearSkies on December 7, 2007, at 11:10:03
In reply to Re: ((LL)), posted by rskontos on December 7, 2007, at 10:43:39
> Clear Skies, did they say in the seminar that it would account for the lack of memories. I mean would you want to forget EVERYTHING due to the stress. Cause if that is case that then ok. I don't know I just wonder. I wish I could attend these seminars. I know they would be triggering but I need information. I don't know if there was SA. I know there was abuse in terms of chronic yelling fighting cruelty in terms of verbal abuse and daily put downs. etc. But the other it is a big void. So I wonder if they thought about how far this daily chronic stress can make a child go in terms of symptoms. Do you remember anything they said. Just wondering....thanks for the information though it helps every day I learn a little more. rk
Wow - I am just now reading a book by Pia Mellody, called "Facing Codependence", and I'm at the chapter about repression, suppression, and disassociation. It describes body memories and feeling memories we may feel when we can't recall the exact events themselves.
From what I can gather from the book, our childhood selves create these defensive mechanisms when we're not able to be present for the events. She then goes on to describe the many different ways that abuse can be experienced: physical, sexual, emotional, intellectual, or spiritual. This could be experienced as chronic stress - being treated poorly every day - and so become traumatic. The seminar that I attended was about substance abuse and not abuse in general, but the speaker did not address the issue of voids in memory in particular.I've been told by previous therapists that I "must have been" abused because of the PTSD traits that I possess, yet I didn't really experience any single traumatic event. Or perhaps I'm still minimizing or misremembering my past (quite possible).
I found this book at a church rummage sale. A fortuitous event, but it's a very difficult read for me. I find I'm having to take many breaks and calm myself down repeatedly.
CS
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