Posted by Dinah on September 1, 2007, at 9:48:48
In reply to Re: Forced Termination - Even worse, posted by ForeverWounded on August 31, 2007, at 23:54:30
Yes, I think he feels guilty. He's as much as said so when he said that he considered his current patients as a reason to say no to the new job.
I confess I don't understand why he can't continue to see a very few of his long term clients in his "free time". But perhaps the church has a rule against it, or perhaps his insurance runs out in November.
My therapist many years ago took a job where he had to go out of town frequently, thus missing many appointments. He said something totally idiotic like he thought it would be good for me, give me a chance to spread my wings. I told him when it was convenient to him, he thought weekly therapy was very important for me and when it wasn't convenient to him, he thought giving me a chance to fly was good for me. I told him that I realized that sometimes he needed to do things because it was in his best interests but wasn't in mine, and that was bad enough, but don't turn around and pretend it's in my best interests. To at least say that he knows this is not good for me, and while he has to do it, he's sorry that it's not good for me. And he lets me be angry with him.
It's a shame he isn't taking your honest expressions of anger better. He needs to do some reading on termination, I think, to learn what's well within the normal range of reactions, and the proper way to behave therapeutically.
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