Posted by Dory on August 31, 2007, at 23:31:44
In reply to Re: he called » Dory, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2007, at 21:03:40
> I just am hearing that he's telling you what his limits are now, that they're different than where they were before, and that he is also saying that he's committed to the relationship. And it sounds as if you believe him when he says that.
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> Am I understanding that correctly?yes.. that is right. Better and more concisely worded too.
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> I'm just suggesting a possible way to look at what he's doing other than as something that would necessarily be a cause to mistrust him.this is the trick i guess. i'm having some trouble allowing for him to make a mistake.. sad eh? How can an act seem so innocent and well meaning and so unforgivable at the same time?
as he describes it "my antenna are up" when it comes to causes for mistrust.
>Whether it does or not, I know that it hurts even if his motivations are good.
it does. :o( it really really does.
> But that's me, and based on my therapist's point of view no doubt. You can disregard it entirely if it's no use to you.
it's of use.. it all is.. compare, contrast, re-examine. i value your input. i am mulling and trying to wrap my head around it all.
i should sleep tonight.. i really should.
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