Posted by Dory on August 31, 2007, at 20:36:27
In reply to Re: he called » Dory, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2007, at 11:56:05
ok.. can you explain to me with my own situation? i don't understand how me asking to be able to "touch" the connection is crossing a boundary i guess.. honest. i want to be able to check and re-check that i haven't done anything wrong by being more authenically me. i am trying to make myself more vulnerable or allow him to meet *me*.. and i sometimes need to check that it's still ok. i can see why he would want me to try to build up more trust in him, but i don't understand how it's a boundary thing. i don't call all the time, not even after every appt... just every so often...
i've been seeing my pdoc for 10yrs and in the beginning i did that too.. i still do maybe once or twice a year..or less. Just when i feel that not only have i over exposed my real self, but somehow during that time i might have said or done something to upset him.
i think my T is concerned that this will increase as i let him get to know me.. and i can see how he might make that conclusion... but it wasn't the case with my pdoc and i don't think it will happen now. It's just an now and again thing.
is that a boundary thing? (i'm not being sarcastic, i am genuine in asking)
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