Posted by orchid on September 25, 2006, at 20:28:32
In reply to I Need some help, but be gentle..., posted by daisym on September 25, 2006, at 20:15:07
I am sorry you are feeling so sad and lost. The connections to the Ts can be extremely powerful and actually I think it is beyond cognitive understanding and explanations. And I think you two have done some really deep work together and you must have developed a really profound bond with him. Any threat to that bond is bound to make you feel extremely agitated and anxious. Even if you rationally understand he is not pulling away from you, I don't think it is realistic to expect you to emotionally be able to understand that or be at peace with it.
I can understand how agitated you must be feeling. And I am sorry that you have to feel this pain.
And it is kind of a fundamental fault with this system. Ts kind of end up doing the role of nearly God to us, and they are not God and can neither be expected to be. And their shortfalls (even though unintended or when it is truly beyond their capability to help) hurts the clients. And many times it can't be helped. But I really think your T atleast gets the feeling, and understands the issues, and is good enough to stand up and help you through it. And I think you are really in safe hands, and it is as best as it could ever get for anyone.
I hope it passes.
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