Posted by llrrrpp on August 13, 2006, at 15:01:29
In reply to Re: I think you've just identified the problem... » Racer, posted by Dinah on August 13, 2006, at 14:40:28
very unfortunate-
The next few days are a good time to let things slide and see if the guy notices. If/when he notices and gets grumpy, just say nonchalantly that you were waiting for him to get his bum off the couch and do the team housework as per MC's suggestions...
And just because the squeaky wheel gets the grease doesn't mean that you have to respond instantly to the guy's whining. DON'T feel guilty for letting the housework slide. You're allowed to do things on whatever schedule you want. If you are the one responsible for doing the work, you should also be the one who decides WHEN HOW and IF things will be cleaned up on any given weekend. Your guy sounds like a dictator, but he hasn't any real power, above and beyond his power to make you feel guilty.
best of luck. not an ideal situation, but I know something about men like that (my dad, my brother...) my husband has proclaimed me to be domestically untalented, and has even decided that if one of us has to stay home with an eventual wee one that it will be him, because I'm lousy with household management- haha- and he's SOOOO right!
-ll
p.s. get a housekeeper to come sometime when he's away. If he agreed to it in front of the MC, that should be considered binding, no?
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