Posted by Jost on July 8, 2006, at 18:12:30
In reply to Re: therapy with a family member?, posted by ElaineM on July 7, 2006, at 16:42:23
As Elaine M said, it depends a *lot* on your parents--whether they can be open, can listen, and whether you're in a place where you can talk in a way that feels comfortable and right.
I've done it, and can't say it really helped, although my Ts thought they learned something. In my case, it was awkward and I can't remember what I did or didn't say. It was more that I wanted my T to see my Mother, and see if that made anything make more sense, because at the time, I was terribly confused about whether it was all my fault and craziness.
I'd be careful, if there's a huge separation between you and your parents, and you haven't gotten to the point of really wanting and believing that you, and they, are ready to respond in a new way-- that's just a guess, though.
Expressing anger, or pain, unless it would lead to that (greater understanding), and could be done in a way that they could hear-- I don't know-- I'd wonder if you'd feel stronger, or more self-accepting if it didn't move in a more positive direction from that.
But maybe even being honest, in the right circumstances, if it would help free you of something-- could be worth it.
It's a hard decision.
Jost
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