Posted by annierose on May 4, 2006, at 9:11:02
In reply to It's an impossible situation, posted by Dinah on May 4, 2006, at 8:25:11
I don't see it as a choice between your husband and son. Your son is young. No young child would ever say, "Yes, I want to move to a new home in a new city with a new school and make new friends." That would be asking too much. It is his job to say, "I want to stay."
You are a great mom and attend to his needs. You will attend to them in the new city too. He has proven to be more resilient than you anticipate. He's adorable. He is smart. He will make new friends.
I'm not saying "Dinah, you should move." What I'm asking you to consider is this --- it's a decision between you and your husband, while considering the needs of your son.
I think your T is not helping you right now. And that saddens and worries me. Taking him out of the equation is difficult in this decision. You love him so much. But you need to try and think of your life outside of therapy.
Maybe your husband will take to heart what you were trying to express. I hate when my husband talks to me like that. I hope you are able to have an adult conversation soon. The more you talk it over, talk and talk and talk, the right decision will rise to the surface, it will just make sense (at least that's what my T tells me).
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