Posted by LadyBug on May 3, 2006, at 11:22:53
In reply to Dear T,, posted by happyflower on May 3, 2006, at 11:02:53
Happyflower,I hope you share this with him when you see him next. My T. and I crossed over into more of a friendship years ago. We both soon realized it and decided to draw some boundaries to protect our work that we were doing. We both felt the friendship kicking in. Although it was taking place in her office. We learned from it. We didn't make the same mistake twice. If seeing your T at the gym is bothersome, which I suppose it is, then I'd probably seek out a different gym to go to or else go at a different time. I know you shouldn't have to accomidate him in your personal life since it isn't a part of your work as therapist/patient. It's too confusing to have two different relationships going on in the theraputic room. I guess that's why there's boundaries set forth for our own protection. It is up to our T's to make sure those boundaries are followed. Unfortunatly some therapists like to be flattered and take it too far. We are not there to fullfill their needs. The work is about "US", meaning you. I'm sure your T will understand. It is hard to come back to strictly a therapist/patient relationship but it CAN be done. I think you and your T can do it!!!
I know how it feels to have the wish be there, but not be able to have that wish of an outside relationship.
Sorry this is so long winded, I don't know what came over me?
Hugs
LadyBug
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