Posted by daisym on April 24, 2006, at 17:07:55
In reply to I'm just not getting over this., posted by madeline on April 24, 2006, at 6:51:42
Hi Maddy,
Two things, talking about the same thing over and over again in therapy is helping. Just because HE doesn't know what else to suggest doesn't mean YOU don't need to talk about it. Think about any past traumatic event...you can't undo it, but you still need to process it. So talk about it until you don't need to anymore. And then talk about it one more time.
The other thing is that I would like to gently suggest that you stop resisting your feelings (yup, pot calling the kettle black here) and stop telling yourself to move on. You just aren't ready yet. This whole event provoked a very powerful body memory and you've been flooded. Your very soul feels invaded, it sounds like, with these really raw and painful feelings and you just can't shove that aside. It doesn't matter how much you tell yourself you SHOULDN'T feel this way; You do. And I've found that these things are just weird, they respond at different times to different things. Who knows what the ultimate trigger was? Maybe a different scent in the air, or something brushed your skin in a certain way, or even a phrases said with a specific tone of voice, something came together when you were in this tremendously vulnerable position and you lost your safety. It will take a while to get it back.
Your therapist sounds like he can help you get it back if you let him. Just be gentle with yourself and try to stay open to his help. I think the youngest parts of you sound terrified and need comfort. Let the adult who knows she needs another exam at some point, wait.
I wish I had more to offer for comfort than words.
Hugs,
Daisy
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