Posted by Dinah on October 24, 2004, at 8:50:13
In reply to Leaving is so hard to do!, posted by daisym on October 24, 2004, at 1:16:18
I honestly don't do it consciously. And I don't do it all the time, just when I'm upset. But maybe I do tend to mention things while we're standing at his desk attending to business. I like to think that I do it because I have a few minutes to think about what was said, and that brings up questions or observations. But maybe not. My therapist never indulges me though, or so rarely that it's not worth doing if I am doing it to prolong the session. :)
While we're sitting I used to watch the time and leave before he could dismiss me. Now I often let him pick up his pad and use that as a hint.
But...
He used to short change me all the time. We'd start late and he'd expect me to leave on time. So now if he picks up his pad, and I know it's not time I just keep talking. Or I ask him if we hadn't started late today? Or sometimes I just leave because I'm finished.
I confronted him a few years ago on the "catching up time" with me, and he did get better at it. In fact the other day, there was a bit of confusion with two clients showing up at once. He said it was an error on the other client's part. And we started really really late. And when I was finished and getting ready to leave, he kept sitting there. He said he didn't want to give me something to hang over his head for years. That made me feel sort of bad. :( I didn't think I was that tough on him.
poster:Dinah
thread:406539
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