Posted by shrinking violet on October 22, 2004, at 11:36:42
In reply to Re: your T » shrinking violet, posted by Pfinstegg on October 17, 2004, at 11:14:48
>> From the point of view of an outside observer, it seems like a real limitation in HER skills, but I know that anyone interacting in a situation like this is going to blame themselves- it's so hard not to, but I hope you can take a step back and truly realize that it's not your fault.
Thank you. I do think she was at "fault" in some ways too, but, I know I bear the brunt of blame for how things turned out. If I could have just *talked* to her, things would have been very different.
>> I know you're a student, so your options are probably much more limited, but could you interview the other therapists at your health service- kind of as if you were an employer looking for the best job applicant- and see if you find someone who's a better fit for you? Any awkwardness you feel would only be temporary, wouldn't it?hm, I doubt it. I'd be waiting in the same waiting area, and on the same floor, in the same grouping of offices. I'd be bound to run into her at some point. Also, since I have an eating disorder, once per month the Ts, docs and nurtitionist get together and meet about their ED clients, so I'd be talked about in front of her (I wouldnt be there, but still...). It would feel too weird and I'm nervous before sessions as it is; I dont need to worry about possibly seeing her there, too.
I officially quit with her last night. I sent her an email telling her why I cant go back. I, of course, took all of the blame, and tried to make her feel that she's helped me more than I think she has (um, not really at all). I figure I may as well end on somewhat of a good note. I guess now she knows I''m not going back, like the other times.
I miss her already.
Thank you for your thoughts.
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