Posted by shrinking violet on October 17, 2004, at 10:58:13
In reply to Re: your T shrinking violet, posted by antigua on October 17, 2004, at 10:17:55
>> Give her one more chance. Print out one of these emails and just give it to her. What do you have to lose? If you like her so much personally, it's worth one more try. Also, please, please don't assume that if you have trouble opening up to this T that you will run into the same situation w/another. It doesn't necessarily work that way.
I know, I could try again, but I feel like I've given this so many chances as it is, and it only seems to get worse.
>> I know what you mean about wishing she would/could keep quiet for a few minutes while you pulled yourself together to find the words. I ask my T to be quiet if I feel the need to do that. (She doesn't talk too much but sometimes she gets excited and keeps going when I find the need to focus more intently on something.)Hm, if I asked her to be quiet she'd probably get insulted. I did try to subtly hint to her once that her talking makes it harder for me, especially when she goes off on one of her "mini-speeches" as I affectionately called them. Thankfully, she laughed about it and didn't get insulted, but she didn't stop doing it either.
>> You have nothing to lose. Let her know how you feel. Put it in writing if that's easier.
Hm, I think more writing is the last thing she needs from me. :-/ As I said in my previous response, I don't think she's really hearing me anymore, and she might take it all the wrong way. Besides, I just can't chance going back there and getting hurt or feeling attacked again. I just can't, not from her.
Thank you for your thoughts. I appreciate it.
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