Posted by mandinka on October 20, 2004, at 3:00:28
In reply to It's raining, inside and out (trigger potential), posted by daisym on October 20, 2004, at 1:22:38
You put it right there in your post, daisy - you're a good mom. The best feat a woman can pull off! To be a good mom you have to be a pretty good person in the first place!
Forgive me the little lecture but I think I should say this because sometimes I really believe it:
Try the following: list all the things you HATE about yourself and then ask why you should forgive yourself for them? That's what my great, new T2 told me to do. The reason I came up with was "I can forgive myself because all the things I think are wrong with me come from my internal pain". Without that pain and suffering I wouldn't have reasons to hate myself and my life! We're not created full of self-hatred and innate badness. This is a learnt ability. Once you accept the fact that your misery is not a product of your true self but is brought about by external circumstances, it will be easier for you to see the goodness inside you, find reasons to believe life can be beautiful and you ARE a beautiful person. I can tell you, without even knowing you well, that this is the truth. A given. We each carry at the very bottom of our souls a wellspring of unconditional love and true self-worth. Just shove aside the debris that covers it. Please stay around long enough to be able to hold on to this truth and let it guide you even when the goings get rough.
Big hug. I really feel for you. :)
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