Re: how does your T handle silences?

Posted by Dinah on October 20, 2004, at 1:56:09

In reply to how does your T handle silences?, posted by shrinking violet on October 19, 2004, at 19:44:54

I think I'm rarely silent, unless I'm "going away" or shutting down. Or maybe I never notice silences except then. I'm fairly likely to comment on the process if I'm just thinking or struggling to find words, either by saying so or by gesturing.
But if things get too intense for me, I'll go really quiet and I've asked him to talk to me at those times to keep me with him and on topic. He's pretty good about doing that. He's also pretty good about figuring out when I need that or when I'm just thinking.
There are a few times when I'm quiet for some reason, and I want him to break the silence. I get sort of angry when he doesn't. But I know he likes me to be responsible for my therapy, so eventually I say something - if only to ask him to say something.

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how does your T handle silences? shrinking violet 10/19/04
Re: how does your T handle silences? » shrinking violet Pfinstegg 10/19/04
Re: how does your T handle silences? mair 10/19/04
Re: how does your T handle silences? » mair crushedout 10/19/04
Re: how does your T handle silences? daisym 10/20/04
Re: how does your T handle silences? Dinah 10/20/04
Re: how does your T handle silences? vwoolf 10/20/04
Re: how does your T handle silences? » shrinking violet Poet 10/20/04
Re: Silence and imitation » Poet Skittles 10/20/04
Re: Silence and imitation » Skittles Poet 10/21/04
Whew, glad it isn't just me!! (nm) » Poet Skittles 10/21/04

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