Posted by mair on September 8, 2004, at 11:02:28
In reply to I should be at my appointment right now . . ., posted by Aphrodite on September 7, 2004, at 16:59:45
The only wisdom I can offer is that I've often imagined that I will terminate therapy maybe under similar circumstances - like I'll do or say something that will make me not want to go back, or maybe that therapy will just get too tough. My therapist and I have talked about this in the abstract because of course I also fear that I'll terminate prematurely or that she'll not do anything to keep me coming on the theory that she has to accept my decisions.
My therapist's take on this (in the abstract of course), is that therapy is a process and if I stop coming or don't show, she'll view it as part of the process and not as an end. I think it's her way of telling me that I needn't ever feel like I can't go back.
Also I think one of the other posters made a point my T has made countless times - namely that it's important for us to realize that the T accepts us regardless of what we do or say. So the fact that you've said something that shames you, provides him with a wonderful opportunity to let you know that he accepts you for who you are - all grist for the mill.
Mair
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