Posted by Joslynn on January 22, 2004, at 16:54:11
In reply to I called Bubba :(, posted by Karen_kay on January 22, 2004, at 16:33:44
oh sweetie, this isn't your fault! Yes you are right, he is the one who opened this window into his personal life, now he is slamming it down shut, when you didn't even really do anything. He shouldn't have been so personal if he doesn't want to intrigue clients, IMO.
Looking in the phone book is crossing boundaries? That's just silly. He should get a completely unlisted number then. Most therapists have that.
It sounds like he is learning by experience where he wants his boundaries, which is something I wish for your sake he would have thought about in grad school. It seems like different therps have different styles, and now he is changing in mid-stream.
As someone who grew up with the changing rules that are so common in alcoholic families, nothing is more annoying to me than relationships that arbitrarily change midstream! But that's me.
Ok, maybe now the thing is to just let it drop for a while and not call him again.
The irony is, if you were some stalker, why would you tell him all this?! I mean, wouldn't someone like that be sneaky?
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