Posted by Dinah on November 20, 2003, at 9:49:34
In reply to Ok, did he handle this properly? (long, kinda?), posted by karen_kay on November 19, 2003, at 17:46:59
Karen? Two questions occurred to me from your post.
Why does he think yuo need the hook of your crush on him to continue to come into therapy? Is it true? If it is or isn't, maybe that should be a topic of conversation.
If you got the impression he was enjoying your fantasies a bit too much, could you tell him you got that impression? Unfortunately it does happen and it might interfere with the progress of therapy if it's true. My therapist gently accepts my thinking of him as my therapist/mommy, the mother dog to my newborn pup, the warm milky teat. But he certainly doesn't try to encourage it. lol. He wouldn't try to keep me there and is eager to see my toddling steps towards independence, even if he realizes that they scare me. If you're wondering if he's getting gratification from your fantasies, I would think that is a legitimate question. It's certainly better to ask it than to have hopes/fears about it.
poster:Dinah
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