Posted by fallsfall on October 3, 2003, at 17:38:57
In reply to Therapy can seem so cruel, posted by HannahW on October 3, 2003, at 14:39:03
Lonely because you didn't get the reassurance?
You did a great job bringing that up. That took a lot of courage.
I think that sometimes they don't give us what we want because it is their job to help us figure out what is causing the need. If they just feel what we see as a need, they are just reinforcing that the need is valid and should be filled the way we want. It really does stink.
Sometimes when I was really upset (suicidal), my old therapist would give me what I wanted. In those cases, I tended to think that I was threatening her (even though I really never did) - that was not a comfortable feeling. Recently, my therapist came back from vacation and I was a wreck. I told him that while he was gone I wanted someone to take care of me. And he took care of me before I left that day - I don't quite know how he did it, but somehow his words had magic. Since then there have been things that I've wanted that he hasn't given to me. I haven't pressed for them because I am trying really hard not to get too dependent on him.
I would keep talking about it until it isn't an issue for you anymore. Your loneliness says to me that it still is an issue.
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