Posted by DaisyM on September 29, 2003, at 19:21:58
In reply to Trust - A therapy homework, posted by Dinah on September 29, 2003, at 13:19:46
Trust has been on my mind ALOT as of late so it is an interesting thing to apply to friendships. It seems to me that there is trust...and then there is TRUST. I agree with you, Dinah, that deep intimincy should be saved for a significant other, maybe family, and really rare friends.
And really, how many people do you want to have such deep relationship with? It gets exhausting sometimes, I think. It is actually nice sometimes to be with individuals who don't want to really know "how you are doing." You don't have to re-live all the bad stuff, or pretend you are ok, you can just chit chat or have fun. I think going through experiences with someone is the most authentic way to deepen a relationship anyway. Shared memories, good and bad, supporting each other at different times, etc., etc.
Dinah, I don't think your social skills are off on this one. I do agree with fallsfall that we are all lonely for deep connections but too many can be as tough as too few. Having said all of that, I am the first to admit that opening my soul up to someone is as scary as it gets for me.
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